Eating the Fruit of the Spirit?

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So, this post is a bit off the wall.   I woke up last night at 3:31am, and I felt like I should pray for one of my dear friends.  While praying for her, a thought struck me that I had never thought of before.   Because of Christ in me, the fruit of the Spirit of God also fills me...so because of this position in Christ I can live my life FULL of : love, joy, peace, long-suffering (patience), kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

So the Bible says that if we are Christ-followers, we WILL bear fruit. (evidence in our life that Christ has become our Lord.)

"Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.  Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.  Therefore by their fruits you will know them." --Matthew 7:17-20

Those who are Christ-followers have fruit.  But fruit is not meant to just hang on trees.  That's when it hit me!  Can someone really EAT the Fruit of the Spirit?    So I ran to Google (later in the morning after I woke up again) and typed in :  "can you eat the fruit of the spirit"  and would you believe...Google had NO idea!!!!!!

So I thought about it!!!  WE are called to represent Christ to the world!  What does the world who doesn't know Christ NEED?  Do they need LOVE?  Uh yeah!  How about JOY?  Yup!  PEACE?  Definitely!!!  PATIENCE? Yep!  KINDNESS, GOODNESS, FAITHFULNESS, GENTLENESS, SELF-CONTROL?  YES, Yes, Yes, Yes Yes!!!!

Where can those who don't have those fruit FIND it?  Well, since they are found in CHRIST alone, you can reason to say that Christ-followers should exhibit these fruit MOST in their lives in our culture!!!  (Not cause we're so amazing (quite the contrary!) but only because Christ who lives IN us shows His nature THROUGH our lives..it's nothing we do but all about what HE does!!!)

So, if you've got fruit...don't let it ROT on your tree....I don't believe that God gives us fruit to rot or to eat just ourselves but to share it to a needy and dying world who NEEDS these very FRUITS in their lives too!    

It says in Psalm 34:8,   "Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in Him." We are Christ to this world. Let the world "taste and see" our fruit that God has given us so they can know of His goodness!!!

So...go on....let your fruit be shared with this lost and dying world. They have no hope without Jesus...and the world NEEDS this fruit!!!

ADD is just another way to spell BOYS!!!

I recently read this article entitled School ADD Isn’t Homeschool ADD .   I loved the article and wanted to share it and comment on it for other parents who find themselves a parent to.....a BOY!!! 

I've talked to 2 moms lately who have "ADD Kids" are are frustrated. Please read this article. From experience with my 5 sons, let me just say that almost all boys fit the description of "ADD." Even my oldest son, who was reading at 3, fit the description we read in a medical journal when he was a preschooler. We just laughed because the article was describing, well, BOYS! We are thankful we homeschooled our house full of boys (and girls), because a little boy is just not meant to sit at a desk all day long. They need to be jumping and wiggling and dancing and making noise. That doesn't work in a classroom.
My 2nd son just wasn't catching on to reading at 5. The more I made him sit still, the more he got frustrated with sounding out 3 letter words. I finally caught on and let him do his phonics by jumping off the couch onto a huge bean bag every time he got a word right. Within the week he was reading his little Bob Books!!!! He learns best with noise and music still at 18. My 2 oldest "ADD kids" scored 35 and 31 on their ACT tests. I hate to think what label or medication they might have been put on in a different environment. Set the little boys free from desks!!!!!

How do you Deal with Complaining at your House?

I was asked this week by a friend how we deal with complaining at our house.   I thought I'd share it here because this seems to be a universal issue that we deal with.   By "we" I don't just mean the children---we all, by nature, are prone to complain.  

By blogging about this topic, I'm not saying that you will never hear a complaint coming from one of our mouths or that we've mastered it....but we have studied and hit this topic pretty hard as a family from a Biblical perspective and that has really helped. 

While there are a number of Bible passages that fit, my favorite passage for dealing with complaining is Philippians 2:14-16

14 Do all things without complaining and disputing, 15 that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world,16 holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain.

Now let's tear this apart.  First of all, 14 is a command.  "Do ALLLLLLLL things without complaining.   That means ALL.  EVERYTHING.   ALL THINGS.   Okay we got that right?
So to complain about ANYTHING is----not right!   Period.  A Christian should not complain.    (Let me say that the next word "disputing" comes in VERY handy in a family as well.   Along with NEVER complaining...we can add  NEVER arguing about things.  But I'll save that for another post).  

Okay.....so we've established that a Christian should never complain.   (I know this sounds hard, but trust me, with practice it DOES get so much easier and you'll find yourself when you DO complain feeling convicted and doing it less and less)     
The cool thing is the next 2 verses.  God doesn't just tell us "Don't do THAT!"  But then explains WHY!!!

Check this out...we should not complain because-------it helps us to be blameless children of God...in  a messed up culture that is  full of sin and complaining about everything.  "Among whom we shine like lights in the world...holding fast the word of life so that I may rejoice that I have not run in vain." (paraphrased)

This is one defining feature of us in our world.  People will notice that we are different by our attitude.  Are we known for our thanksgiving or our whining and complaining???   The world will take note----trust me!!!!

Some ways we can complain:

• Ugh, it's Monday
• I just need some ME time
• The kids are driving me crazy
• The kids are too noisy
• The kids are too messy
• The kids complain too much
• The kids_____________
• The husband  never  __________
• This food is cold
• This food it hot
• This food is ___________
• I hate cooking
• I can't stand _________
• The lines at Wal Mart are so long
• This is supposed to be FAST food
• I get so ticked when _________

You know, I can seriously make this list a mile long, but you get the point.   Let me just say that you can share these verses with your kids...but it will do ABSOLUTELY NO GOOD if they don't see Mom and Dad modeling this all during the day.   Complainers raise complainers...so if there is a problem...ask God to start with you!!!!!   

When they see Mom and Dad leading more thankful, less grumbling lives, it will help them to learn to have a life of gratefulness as well.  Just like we have rules not to hit siblings, yell at family members, roll their eyes etc...this is a very good rule to add as a family.  "No complaining!"   

You'll be glad you tackled this.  It is not a childhood problem as my Facebook news feed can attest to.   Instead of raising ungrateful, sour adults they will grow up and do what Philippians 2 says "Shine like lights in the world holding fast the word of life."   

Treating Sore Throats at Home (Pharyngitis)

Because in my previous life, I worked as a PA (Physician Assistant) for many years, I am always interested in learning more about the human body.    I think I have a nice position....being married to a doctor and myself trained in American medicine, yet able to acknowledge that sometimes American medicine makes things worse or has financial bias.

   I've spent years researching different things like vaccinations, herbal medicines, homeopathy, natural treatments, pathology (what is the cause of disease), diets, healthy eating and living etc.   I am by no means an expert on any of them, but I am able to think rationally about each side with an open mind.  There is definite value in understanding each side....the benefits vs risks...and when to apply conventional medicine and when to apply "natural" medicine.

I get frustrated often with Facebook posts by (usually) women who have soapboxes and little to no knowledge of the human body.  They basically think anything from the medical field is evil and bad for them, while anything "natural" is totally safe and healthy.   I have seen people recommend herbs or oils that have clearly been shown to be dangerous in pregnancy, nursing and early childhood to those people.   I have seen people try to talk others out of seeking medical care for something that genuinely can be dangerous if not treated.       I'm not advocating either side...there is benefits in both in my opinion, and a severe lack of wisdom to bash either side as well.    I implore,  you young mothers especially, to use wisdom in your research and in your "advice" to other gullible friends.   Despite what you think, there is a lot you don't know or understand. Please approach your research humbly and open to both sides.     

With that aside, I wanted to address some topics in my blog that I get asked questions of often.  
I will start with sore throats.  The medical word for sore throat is "Pharyngitis."  "Itis" means inflammation and "Pharyng" refers to the pharynx  or the medical word for throat.   So basically....any inflammation of the throat.    A sore throat can be caused my many things.   Viruses, bacteria, and post nasal drip are the most common.      Other more uncommon causes are reflux from the stomach, trauma or tumors.

Over 80% of all sore throats are caused by viruses.  They do not require any medical care and can be safely treated at home.  Antibiotics to not help at all and in some cases make it worse.  (like Mono).

Post nasal drip from allergies are another major cause of sore throats.  The drainage from the sinuses irritates the back of the throat making it sore or inflamed.    That is best treated with an allergy medicine like Zyrtec or Claritin.   Often regularly consuming raw honey helps as well.   Since our allergies are often from air born pollens and such, local honey (where the bees have taken local pollen to make honey) actually works by desensitizing us to the local allergens with time.  You can tell it's from post nasal drip if you see 2 faint pink or red lines straight down the back of your throat.  (From all the drainage)  (Sometimes you won't have this but if you do see it, it's a good clue).

Strep throat is the worst cause of pharyngitis because it actually NEEDS antibiotics.  While strep is not very common in adults (though it happens) it is much more common in childhood.   (as a side note, it is also not super common in infancy, though should not be completely ruled out either).  Roughly 30-40% of sore throats in children is caused by strep.  (keeping in mind that 60-70% is NOT strep).     The problem with strep is that if untreated, there is the possibility of it going into the kidneys to cause severe damage  (glomerulonephritis), or into the heart and causing rheumatic heart disease usually requiring a new heart valve.  (Chris and I have both seen patients with this....it happens more than you think!)         Typically a course of antibiotics will take care of the strep and prevent damage to the heart or kidneys.        We, as a family, are very anti---antibiotics.  We rarely if ever give them to our kids.  Strep is the one thing that we don't mess around with.      Fortunately, with 9 kids in 20 years, we've only ever had one kids with strep once!!!    Please don't take a chance with strep.

Strep can often be diagnosed simply by looking in the throat.  You will typically see white coating or spots on the tonsils, large lymph nodes under the jaw line and almost always a fever.   Typically, strep throat hurts excruciatingly...even to just swallow your own spit.        One virus that mimics strep is mononucleosis.  That is a virus, but it can make white patches on the throat as well.  If you take antibiotics while you have mono, you will often get a pretty bad rash from it, so make sure it's truly strep or ask a doctor.

I want to mention here the scary sounding diagnosis of "Scarlet Fever."  It's honestly just strep throat with a rash.  It's nothing worse than just plain strep...it just sounds scary.  

The rest of the culprits are typically viruses.  There are so many different viruses that cause strep, I can't even name them all.   Viruses typically make "bumps On the back of the throat. Not the tonsils but the VERY back even behind the uvula.     They can give fever but not usually.....and fevers are not usually as high as with strep.

So I'm often asked what to do about sore throats that are caused by viruses.  Here are some things that our family uses.



1.   Our absolute favorite "magic pill" for sore throats is Bee Propolis.  They come in capsules and you can swallow the capsules or for kids open them up and mix the propolis in applesauce or  yogurt.  I've never read what the "perfect dose" of propolis is...but for older kids and adults we have them take 1 capsule per hour until it feels better. For younger kids I give them 3-4 per day.  (I don't give it to kids under 1--just my personal feeling).   Propolis is the anti viral and antibiotic found in honey that keeps honey from never going bad.  (notice how honey stay fine on the counter for ever?  Propolis!!



2. Elderberry Syrup You can buy it pre-made or to save money, do what we do and make it yourself.

- 1 cup fresh or 1/2 cup dried organic Elderberries
- 3 cups water

- 1 cup raw local honey

- 1 organic Cinnamon stick, 3 organic Cloves, and organic Ginger (optional)

Place berries, water, and spices in a saucepan. Bring to a boil, reduce heat, and simmer for 30 minutes. Smash the berries to release remaining juice and strain the mixture. Allow liquid to cool and stir in honey. Will last for 2-3 months stored in the fridge.




We buy dried elderberries from The Bulk Herb Store




3. High doses of Vitamin C (for us that is about 1,000 per day for smaller kids and 2,000 mg per day for bigger) I've heard of people giving a lot more than that...we just haven't needed to.




4. Vitamin D We typically give more Vitamin D during illness




Hope this helps. This is not exhaustive, but it is how our family handles sore throats.

So You've Made a "Decision" to Follow Jesus? So What!

As a follow-up to my previous post, I wanted to share another idea that Francis Chan shared in his sermon Why Are We Here?    It is the concept that we hear frequently in Evangelical circles:  "I've made a decision for Christ."     

 Chan goes on to explain that last year he "made a decision" to run every single day of the year.  Even if it was only 1/2 of a mile, he made the decision to do it.   So, on January 1st, he got together with a bunch of friends, and, even though it almost killed him, he ran 4 miles.   Fast forward a few months....at that point, he had run a total since January 2nd of about 4 miles all together.     He "made a decision," but did it actually change his life?   Many people "decide" to follow Christ.....and other than calling themselves a "Christian" after that day, nothing much has changed in their life.

I think this goes along with the heresy of "the sinner's prayer."  The false teaching that if there is an altar call or "invitation" at church and you repeat a prayer after someone "asking Jesus into your heart" that you are deemed a "Christian" and are on your way to heaven.   It doesn't matter that you never had an encounter with God, you never repented from your sins, and you never gave up your life to be under Christ's control.   

Folks, an encounter with God is like being hit by a Mac-Truck.  You can't have an encounter with the Creator of the Universe, the King of Kings and the Lord of lords and remain unchanged!

If you have "made a decision" or prayed a "sinner's prayer"  please see if your life has fruit of the evidence that it was a true conversion to Christianity.    

21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ 23 And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’ --Matthew 7:21-23


13 “Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. 14 Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it. --Matthew 7:13-14

Who is Driving your Car?

So we watched one of those sermons today.  One that leaves you thinking and chewing on what you heard and realizing that you can say, "Wow, that was a good sermon!" and call it a day....or you can sincerely ask the Lord to let it penetrate and change your heart.  

While watching Francis Chan's sermon Why are we here? Meaning of life, Biblical Salvation, I had a couple things that seared into my brain cells ideas that I haven't thought of in a long time or maybe EVER.  

The first is a simple concept:   The idea that we are zooming around space, on a ball at thousands of miles per hour around a burning hot star 93 million miles away.  If we were just a tad closer, we'd burn up in seconds, and if we were farther, we'd freeze to death.   And we think we are in control.   

The thought was that if today was your last day spinning around on this planet, how would God want you to spend your day?  How do you know it isn't?    Who are you living for---and will it matter in 100 years??

Secondly......imagine your life is represented by a car.     You are trucking along and encounter Jesus.  Some people think he is nice to have around for emergencies---when they are sick or in financial distress....so they put Jesus in the trunk.  

Other people want Jesus as a closer part of his life....so they invite him into the back seat of their life.  They can chat and hang out, but nothing too committed.   

Others ask Jesus to be in the passenger seat.  They really want to chat and have fun together. They even want intimate conversation and sharing,  but they still want to be the one steering the wheel and deciding what to do and where to go with their lives.    (This reminds me of the old bumper sticker that was around in the 70's and 80's  "Jesus is my Co-pilot" )   (And I'm realizing how that goes against true-Christianity) 

Finally some realize how utterly pathetic they are in their own strength, get out of the driver's seat, ask God to drive and steer the car, and give Him full control.    

Chan challenges us to see where we are in that analogy.

Think about it a minute...where is Jesus in your "life car?"   

This led to a great discussion in our family about what salvation is ----and how is affects our whole lives.

I admitted that I feel Jesus IS in the driver's seat of my life, but that I had a tendency to grab the wheel and help him when I got nervous and lacked faith.     Anyone else relate?    Do we treat Jesus like a teen-aged driver?   

Let our prayer be like the famous Bluegrass song  "Jesus Take the Wheel"   and never touch it again.....let us have a pre-determined "YES, LORD!"    That means that before Jesus even asks, we have already said, "YES!" to whatever he asks of us!!!   

Review: Vid Angel (Movie Filtering)

I had to share about a website that has been an exciting discovery for our family.   It is Vidangel.
We feel that what we watch and allow our children to watch should not go against what we read in Scripture.  We don't want to watch things that glorify things that God hates.   There have been a number of great movies that we have chosen to not watch over the years because they included using the Lord's name in vain, have shown sex outside of marriage as okay, have shown the occult in a positive light, have included many 4-letter words etc.

It feels like a constant struggle as parents to know the "right" thing to do in so many situations.  I'm sure other parents will give me  aloud "Amen!"  

We typically screen movies by reading the reviews on Pluggedin .We have found this amazingly helpful, yet is often still falls short on modesty in movies.   (and with 3 teenage boys in our home, this is a very real struggle that they ask us to help them with).

We decided to test out Vidangel a few weeks ago, when we received an email offering us a free showing of any Star Wars movie.  That was prefect because none of our kids had seen a Star Wars movie yet.  We set the filters (which not many were needed I must admit) for Star Wars 4.   We were impressed with how nicely done the filtering was!  For most of the things, we were not even able to tell what was taken out or when.   As we progressed to Star Wars  5, 6, 1 and 2 we were increasingly thankful for the filters in many scenes.  (immodesty and foul language).  

The way it works is this....you "buy" the movie filtered as you wish for $20.   You watch the movie and if you "return" it (press one button when you are done)....they refund $19 to your account and charge your card $1.  If you love the movie and want to keep the filtered version....you just let them keep your $20, it's that simple.  It has worked seamlessly for 5 movies for us now....

The filters are great....they are very specific so you can choose which individual word/scene you want to filter.  If you want to filter the "S-word" but are okay with "H-words"  then you can filter accordingly.  You can filter or not filter violence---and they tell you each scene if you want to filter some but not all.

Anyway, check it out.....some of you think it's overkill...but I know many of you will appreciate the opportunity to protect your kids from junk in otherwise good movies!   VIDANGEL

Why Resolutions and Friends go so well together!

While pondering the concept of "New Year's Resolutions,"  I've come to realize that like-minded friends go a long way in ensuring that resolutions actually get carried out.

With 9 kids---4 teens, a toddler, a preschooler and 3 in between, I often feel like there is not enough time in the day or "me" to go around.     It's easy to focus on the current needs right in my face like meals, school and laundry.  That narrow focus makes it harder to see other things.  Enter  "other things"----(not less important mind you, just not screaming for attention things):    Reading through the Bible,  exercise....eating healthy.   THAT is where friends come in so handy!

I don't need accountability to make sure my family gets fed or that  laundry or homeschool gets done.  That is the backbone of most of my days.  I DO need encouragement to stay faithful with sitting down and making Bible reading a priority, exercise a priority and eating healthy a priority or they can sometimes get pushed aside.

I'm so thankful for a few close friends who ask me in December, "What should we do together to read the Bible this year?"  This has been happening for a number of years now....and I'm so thankful.   Spending time in God's Word is so life-giving and necessary...and it's SO MUCH more fun to read with other sisters and share the treasures that God is showing each of us!!

If you have an area of your life that you need to focus more on but keep failing at.....find a good friend who can come along side you...she probably needs the encouragement and motivation as well.

"Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus."-Philippians 3:13-14